On this third day of Elul, Sam’s and my 26th anniversary, I think about how I am in the most important relationships — with Sam, and Olya, and with others around the circumference. Sometimes, I am short (of temper), sometimes irritated and irritable, sometimes needy. Hopefully, I am there when they need me, and I take much joy in making Olya laugh and Sam feel as valued as he really is. How we break out of our habits, and cut away the hardening of our hearts – that’s the work I have this month. And every month.