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Softening Our Hearts – Vaera 5775

Posted by on Jan 16, 2015 in Blog | 4 comments

Last week, my husband Sam bought us a book about tidying up—and he is convinced that we can tidy up our home once and for all – discard our accumulations of detritus, keeping only what we love, finding a place for each beloved item and nothing else. Because he has faith that we can change. Finally. After all these years. Also this past week, I co-officiated my second, and likely final, Jewish-Catholic wedding. Everyone was really happy with it–the bride, the groom, the parents, the aunts and uncles, the friends, the priest, everyone was happy… everyone except me. I had discussed with the couple, and with the priest, two things that were important to me:...

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On the Occasion of Mom’s Yahrzeit 2015/5775

Posted by on Jan 1, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

  I fell a lot in 2014 – four different times since mid-August. Different injuries: broken glasses from when I fell on my face while carrying too many groceries up my front step, bumps on my head, bruises, and finally, this time, cracked ribs. None of these are fun, I am having trouble finding the humor in it, but I know there is some.   But the weirdest part of this is that it keeps bringing my mother to mind, as we approach her yahrzeit on Friday, January 2. She went through a period when she fell often, and with some dangerous repercussions.   One day, she got up from the kitchen table and seemingly flew into the refrigerator door handle. The family...

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All Lives Matter: Vayeshev 2014

Posted by on Dec 13, 2014 in Blog | 2 comments

What a few weeks it has been for anyone who has been on the other side of being the other…First Michael Brown’s killer and then Eric Garner’s killer walk away from the criminal justice system without an indictment between them. Rabbis and others are killed in a heinous murder in a synagogue during morning prayers in Jerusalem. The Senate finally releases its torture report to let us know in too much detail what we already knew: the United States government tortured in the erroneous belief that it was fighting terrorism. Both parts of that sentence should give pause.   I have read copiously about the lack of indictments and its indictment of the American...

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Who are Those Guys?

Posted by on Dec 6, 2014 in Blog | 1 comment

Today I heard a story from a friend about someone who “paid it forward” at a store, so that she did not have to pay the dime for a bag, having left hers at home, and how this small act of kindness had made her day. A truly tiny act of kindness made her day.   The person who filmed the police killing Eric Garner did it as an anonymous source (until he was arrested on a gun charge).   Deep Throat, the anonymous source who exposed the corruption in the Nixon Administration, remained that way until after his death.   I have visited a young man at the hospital who is waiting for a liver transplant and hopefully it will arrive before his body can no longer...

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Can We Talk? Toledot 5775

Posted by on Nov 21, 2014 in Blog | 1 comment

This morning, I joined the hospital’s Palliative Care team as they met with a group of siblings whose mother had had a devastating stroke yesterday. While the team was still seeking more medical information, the conversation included a healthy dose of “when to let go.” Only a couple of months earlier, the sister who holds their mother’s Power of Attorney, and their mother had sat down with a hospital staff member to talk about Mom’s wishes at the end of life. The sister-daughter described how the staff person had walked them through various scenarios of medical circumstances that they might find themselves in and to give Mom the opportunity to...

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Who Appeared? Vayera 5775

Posted by on Nov 8, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

I invite you to take a moment to clear your mind, breathe and bit, center yourself, and let a question sit within for a bit. Here’s the question: Where were you, when God laid the foundations of the earth? Let the answer come to you. When you’re ready, open your eyes.   Now think to yourself of a moment when you felt closely connected to God, to the Divine, to the holy One. What was that experience like for you, if you’ve had one? If not take a moment to think of a time when you’ve felt deeply connected to another person, when maybe you’ve had a sense of being part of something much larger than yourself.   And with that we turn  to...

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